The Five People You Spend Time With

Not the people you meet in heaven by Mitch Albom, let's look somewhere closer to home. The other I was sitting down with a team member. She had a good personality but seem not to be able to perform at her work. She's full time, has a daily place to report for work everyday but apparently doesn't show in the end results for the past 6 months. As a leader or a coach, you have to let people to make mistakes but if you can help them to make less, by showing pointers, sometimes you end up being a student. Jim Rohn has this good quote, 

 “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

Aha moment for me, as I told her to think about the team of people she worked with everyday for the past 6 months. These people has something in common, not very good, I'm afraid. If people that aren't motivated, not excited, no reason of being  somewhere (at least not on their own will) why would they want to help you to grow? 

That was what went wrong. So, I know even if your best friend, family, sometimes you have to draw a line. If you want to grow, if you want to change, be with someone that encourages you, not pull you down. This is no longer in school, you can change if you want to. "You're not a tree, change!" You can dream to be a millionaire, if you hang out with people who has no desire to succeed. I'm not saying they don't have the ability, everybody does, equal opportunity, but when you don't have  a WHY or reason, you know you have to do something about it.

I've also learned that it's okay to ask someone if they're serious. First, you help to differentiate serious and curious. Really, how many times have you frustrate yourself and others, when something does not work, reason being one of the party is not willing to commit? And you do want the best for both sides, and makes lives easier too! I was asked this Are you serious? question so many times, and that was the best for me, because it made me who I am now. So, don't feel insulted, or don't feel you're too hard on someone. :) 

So, yes, association and commitment to something you want to do, two essential factors in anything you apply really. :) 

A Golden Attitude

I think Jim Rohn have said this before, "Those who read very little have rickets of the mind". Basically, kekurangan minda. Definition of rickets on wikipedia. It does not matter if you're 25 or 50 years old, if you don't grow, it's just too bad.

In Herbalife business, I have found myself challenging the fact that your income usually never exceed your personal development (simple nak faham, pembinaan karektor dalaman). After a little more than 3 years, I've come to terms to accept it. And I hope if anybody who's new and ready to go, excited about the Herbalife opportunity will take time to grow, because that's the biggest return in the business; which is the person you become, not how much you make.

I'm just one of the many stories you will find. Now that my income is more than my age, and it grew 20 times over the past 12 months. It's crazy but I've seen it, and observed it and learned and still learning, from my own mistakes, many of others' mistakes. Ramai orang yang datang memang teruja, super excited and then some don't last-hilang je macam tu. If you don't like that to happen to yourself, decide now. Where do you want to be? Where do you want to go? But like what Mark Hughes says "It's easy to have a great attitude when everything goes right for you, but it takes a GOLDEN attitude when nothing is working right". Right. Sikap yang luar biasa. Rasa rendah diri, sentiasa nak belajar.

And usually kalau nak ada masalah, ada je problem dia. Masalah komunikasi dengan orang (dalam team, sideline, between groups). Usually masalah dengan orang je, the most complicated puzzle. Chairman's Club, Stephan Gratziani gave one of the best trainings two times in KL, one that most people would remember during 2012 Spectacular. There will be more leadership, President's team and so forth, so most likely ego will also be 5000 time more. Human nature. Human error.

So, I'd like to suggest like what we do in our retail pitching just like with our own personal relationship with others, be it customers or distributors, try not to get into argument. actually just don't. I guess it's not easy, if you don't grow personally, you'll find yourself attracting lots of problems. But it's simple, just don't complicate it. Read more of Vitamins for the Mind by Jim Rohn. listen to the tapes, read the books like eating an apple a day. You'll find yourself to be the bigger person.

My coach reminded me too, ask yourself this question "Do I want my ego, or do I want my cheque to grow?" :) I think if you're having a conflict at any moment, this is a really good question to ask.

If everything else seems so hard to swallow like a bitter pill. "The best revenge is to do well!" Nobody can argue with success.