The Five People You Spend Time With

Not the people you meet in heaven by Mitch Albom, let's look somewhere closer to home. The other I was sitting down with a team member. She had a good personality but seem not to be able to perform at her work. She's full time, has a daily place to report for work everyday but apparently doesn't show in the end results for the past 6 months. As a leader or a coach, you have to let people to make mistakes but if you can help them to make less, by showing pointers, sometimes you end up being a student. Jim Rohn has this good quote, 

 “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

Aha moment for me, as I told her to think about the team of people she worked with everyday for the past 6 months. These people has something in common, not very good, I'm afraid. If people that aren't motivated, not excited, no reason of being  somewhere (at least not on their own will) why would they want to help you to grow? 

That was what went wrong. So, I know even if your best friend, family, sometimes you have to draw a line. If you want to grow, if you want to change, be with someone that encourages you, not pull you down. This is no longer in school, you can change if you want to. "You're not a tree, change!" You can dream to be a millionaire, if you hang out with people who has no desire to succeed. I'm not saying they don't have the ability, everybody does, equal opportunity, but when you don't have  a WHY or reason, you know you have to do something about it.

I've also learned that it's okay to ask someone if they're serious. First, you help to differentiate serious and curious. Really, how many times have you frustrate yourself and others, when something does not work, reason being one of the party is not willing to commit? And you do want the best for both sides, and makes lives easier too! I was asked this Are you serious? question so many times, and that was the best for me, because it made me who I am now. So, don't feel insulted, or don't feel you're too hard on someone. :) 

So, yes, association and commitment to something you want to do, two essential factors in anything you apply really. :)